I am in the middle of many
things – work, being a wife filled with desires, dreams and ambitions. I thought of balancing everything in my life
so as to be able to give everything my best shot.
Some twists though happened when I read a blog about someone that gave up her career for a family and being questioned by someone about her decision. I felt that she was in “rage” for the person’s comment and reaction. I do understand her well for that. Her choice of a life focused on family, toddler and a baby is quite outstanding and admirable. I could not say anything other than Love so alive in action from a beautiful mom. I do admire her for her noble and oh so beautiful choice.
Some twists though happened when I read a blog about someone that gave up her career for a family and being questioned by someone about her decision. I felt that she was in “rage” for the person’s comment and reaction. I do understand her well for that. Her choice of a life focused on family, toddler and a baby is quite outstanding and admirable. I could not say anything other than Love so alive in action from a beautiful mom. I do admire her for her noble and oh so beautiful choice.
What about
me? I was led to re-think and
review my priorities. Prior to getting married, I had all the “freedom” to do things on my own and my way. However, things changed since the “I do” …my
entry to married life. Every plan,
dream, etc have to be shared with my husband.
We are both involved. It is no
longer my life but “our life together”.
There were times when I thought if I could give up career to attend with children. I would if I have to. With all honesty I have difficulty figuring
out leaving my baby with a stranger attending with my kids. I realized that there is no better touch and care than a
mother’s or father’s / parent’s. At
least there is one of us that should be there for them…for the kids.
At this time
I am startled at how I could be capable of generating income even if I could become
a full time mom. While career women like
me at my current state may be walking around working, building and piling up careers, my heart is slowly “deviating” from the trend. I realize I could earn more through writing(while
I thought of finishing the books that I started
to frame and write) and do consulting work (from where I gain my extra income
at moment).
Why am I thinking
of this? I could say that my pregnancy
has taken me to a new unpopular route vis-à-vis women’s climbing and competing
for big spots in the world of work. I am
thinking and feeling more of the quality time that I am going to be spending
with my baby and future kids. I thought
of impact of formation of presence than busying myself with so many things and
not keeping track of their total growth and formation.
Call me
restless but my pursuit and search of quality just led me also to a research
from that of Bo Sanchez (and many other authors) on homeschooling.
I did not think of that while I was employed in a university. If I had worked there, I would think of security
in terms of getting a free education for my kids (That’s quite a relief for parents’
pocket ha). I and my husband can just take
care of our daily financial needs. But I
am seeing more than that. Not just
feeding and providing them the basics of food, clothing, shelter and
education. I and my husband want quality
education. Of course I am not questioning
quality of education from where I was employed.
It is just that after I read Bo Sanchez article on Homeschooling, some
specks had fallen from my eyes.
As parents
yourself or future parents, tell me why won’t you or I be tempted by the
following 10 Principles mentioned by Bo Sanchez (Philippines’ popular
preacher, best selling author, husband and father of 2) with his homeschooling program (kindly read
quote below by clicking the photo for a better view) :
The above
led me to explore my world. I shared a lot of what I have and my
capacities to my husband that believed in the same principles of
homeschooling. We both want quality –
relationship as a family and the formation that we pass on to our children. Our vision as a couple centers on quality of
content and values so that the same can be passed on to others.
At the
moment while waiting for that moment of having a baby coming out by
September, I am still engaging with my
daily work, making things work out for my job and those I work with…while
figuring out how best I could manifest these – re views, desires, re-routing
that can happen, skills that can be handed on to our family’s next generation
and more than anything my heart and values that I could strongly pass on and be
shared through a ripple positive effect to others through our family.
PS: Check on Bo Sanchez Homeschooling on the following sites. And if you think this would affect the child's social skills...he has the answers
very true. If I will be given a choice? I would have my kids homeschooled. Well, I do have a choice which is to choose not having a choice... confused? me too. Anyway,I think the thinking of staying at home and not pursuing a career is something we can think again...I don't agree with what the West is trying to instill in us that having career women stay at home is not a good one. Come on, I would never trade a great career with family.
ReplyDeleteVery true miss...we could have both...staying at home and pursue a career...while i shape my daughter...i could continue shaping myself right ...toast:-)
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